I am really struggling right now. Usually I have put together my goals for the next year, but this year everything is up in the air. Either we are going to sell the property or we are going to stay if we can save it. We are trying so hard to save it, but it’s not looking good at this point in time. We have a barn up for sale that would give us the amount needed to keep it but if it doesn’t sell soon, I will have to sell the property.
I’m extremely attached to the property as it was my Dad’s but I really would like to go somewhere that people aren’t so close. We are on an acre but they are long rather than square so the neighbors are like right outside my doors it seems. If they fight, we know it close. So I’m kind of torn on what to do at this point.
I keep thinking that somewhere new would be a nice change, but it’s my Dad’s property. He left it to me when he passed in 2020. I just feel like we are stuck right now though and I don’t like that at all. However, with everything being up in the air, I can’t work on goals for the new year yet either. So this means that everything will be so far behind by the time we get everything figured out.
What would you do in this situation? Leave me a comment and let me know.
Have a great day!
Renee
Good luck with your decisions. I know how hard it can be when things belonged to your parents. We just sold my mom’s house after she passed, but it was the right thing. Take care.
I think your dad would be okay if you sold it. I imagine he would want you all to do what is best for your family.
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That would be a hard one for me as well. I’m sure even if you sold it, it would be okay. Sometimes it is the best choice for yourself.
You have to do what is best for you and the family. Have you considered renting the place?
It sounds like a tough decision. I think I would personally move and do what’s best for me rather than clinging to the past.
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I know its hard decision but if its for the best and fro your family then it’s a great decision to make.
It seems so overwhelming and tasks like this can feel so insurmountable on top of everything else we already have going.
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I am sure that the right decision will come to you! Sometimes the life is full of beautiful surprises!
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I’m sure things will work out for the best for you! I understand your ties to the property because your dad owned it!
This is such a very tight spot you are in now! It would be best to consult also to your loved ones regarding the matter and then make it a family decision from there it will be mutual with everyone!
Hi Renee,
Putting down your thoughts, needs, desires, prioritizing them for your needs and current situation would make it so much easier for you to begin small steps to implement your life.
You feel helpless and hanging in the middle of nowhere as you do not have an action plan. Getting one for you would be a saving grace for your peace of mind.
And where there’s calm and peace, come good decision-making steps.
Hold on and believe in your abilities and strength to do what needs to be done. But you need a PLAN.
Whatever you decide to do I hope you weigh your options and consult with your family. Goodluck!
It’s always good to state or write your goals. It makes it a formality and harder to go back on.
I hope you are able to save your home and farm. Sounds like you have a lot going on right now, and I wish you the best as far as making sure that everything falls into place.
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Hi Renee , I read your blog more than once because I could feel the situation you are facing. Remember, what made our parents happy may not necessarily make us happy or fulfill our needs. You clearly stated what you would like to do in the 2nd paragraph… you want to move. So, why not start there? I know, trust me, it’s not easy to let go of some things but when you do and you are in a happier place and a happier situation you will soon see what you were missing. It’s stressful now… lose the stress but hold on to the wonderful memories of your dad, carry them with you, they will never leave you.
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I am behind on my goal setting myself and hope you are doing OK now. I hope you love your new space and have as much of it as you want!